Bubbles has been acting up since baby lulu was born, i asked around and everyone seems to be tell me that its ok..its normal for them to behave like that when the 2nd one comes and that it will be ok soon....my question how soon?
Anyone who knows my daughther, knows that eventhough she is very attached to me..she is also very independent. Since the new baby, she has been very very atttached and very dependent on me and it breaks my heart when i cant give her the time coz i have to sort the lil one. She now merajuk more..sulks..screams more the before and of course it drives me crazy and i get mad and then she gets upsets bla bla bla..i hate to do this...i feel like im nasty mother and it makes me feel very urgggsss..:(.
I was about to go to bed when i saw this email from the baby center pop in my mailbox..: " How to raise a happy child "..just what i needed. before i know bubbles was very very happy now days..i think she feels about sad and sometimes she even says that " im not too happy anymore" can u imagine when your baby says that...i get very sad. Being 3 im not entirely sure is she knows the whole meaning of not so happy but for a 3 yrs old to even utter these words..means something atleast to me that is.
Dont know how this artical will help but im gonna read it and see if i can get something out of it...i really do hope that things will get better.I just hope that she knows how much i love her always and forever..
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oh reena, i'm not going to cakap banyak about this thing as i have been thru this before and am sure you have read a lot of advises and tricks and tips on the net, but just take care of yourself okay. Ko tu baru habis pantang..just don't think too much..be happy..that's important..ok, selamat melayan kerenah anak2 perempuan anda yang comel dan cheeky itu..
haha..that was me..tertekan enter..dowh...
i agree with khemy. look after yourself. we know bubbles can be a drama queen especially with her mommy dearest! and no, their "i'm not happy anymore" is not as complex in meaning as a adult who says it.
it's part of growing up and just like lulu who doesn't have your exclusive attention anyway, she has to learn to deal with it.
i sound like a mean aunty. banyaklah cakap, wait till i have a second one. hahaha
oh yea.. i so remember this one, when we had anwar my little brother. but ofcourse..i did went away. but only because i had bigger brothers to distract me.
insyaAllah.. in time, she'll come around. ko dulu kecik2 camtu gak.. hehehe
you should get her involve in whatever you do with the little one. make her feel important and be part of it.
explain to her why the baby needs your constant attention.. because Lulu is still a baby and can't do things by herself, and not like a big girl like her.
talk to her about whatever you are doing to the baby, diaper change because its full of wee wee, she needs feeding that's why she's crying and she needs burping to avoid sakit perut.. ect ect.
you can do it. put yourself in her shoes. she just needs to understand that there's 4 of you now in the family. not just 3 like before. Lulu can be a real-life baby doll for her (under full supervision of course).
just don't spoil her with gifts as bribery.. thats BAD!
*HUG* Everything will be fine. I'm no mum but for some reason I think you are just awesome :) Please don't be sad.
thanks guys for the support...today i get to out of bed at 1030am...but of couse with lil one on the nips and the kakak on the ear..it was nice its been along time since i get to sleep in and lastnite before going to bed i decided that i will pump more and more so that someone can feed lulu instead of just me so that i can have some time with bubbles and she dont see her adek always melekat kat mummy die..
wahh.. penghasilan susu anda semakin bagus ye.. hehehehehe
it happen to every mom, this case wont close....
when u have time later, try to go out with the eldest alone .. it help
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